Ask Someone Else's Mom by Susan Writer

Bridesmaid’s Date Wants to Skip the Formalwear

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I’m supposed to take my fiancé to her high school best friend’s wedding. She is in the wedding party, but I am not. She keeps telling me I have to rent a tux or buy a new suit and I tell her I don’t need to do either. Which one of us is right? --- A DRESS DOWN GUY

DEAR DRESS DOWN GUY: While the tux may be a little over-the-top, I’d say the suit, or at least a decent sports jacket and dress slacks are in order, especially since you’re both engaged to and accompanying a member of the wedding party. Although it’s an outside chance, it’s not impossible you may be pulled into some of the extended family formal photos.

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