DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a few days late in my cycle. This never happens to me, so I am definitely worried. Even worse, if I were pregnant, I have two possible "baby daddies." There's just no way I could explain this to my ex and someone I thought I'd never have to see again. If I turn out to be pregnant, how do I approach this very sensitive topic? -- Father 1, Father 2, Jackson, Mississippi
DEAR FATHER 1, FATHER 2: Find out immediately if you are pregnant. There is no need for wondering. Take a test -- now! If you are pregnant, you have to decide how to handle the news. Ask your doctor how long it will take before you can determine the paternity of a child, but know that it is not instant. You are going to have to deal with the uncertainty well before this child comes into the world.
You must decide what you want. Obviously, you were confused in your relationship choices at the time of conception, or you would not have the question of who the father is. Right now, you need to assess what you want. Who would you want to build a life with? Would either man be willing to raise this child with you if the child were not his? Does either of you want a child? You have to assess that. No matter what, do not lie. Sort it all out with honesty and as much dignity as you can muster, speaking to each man individually. If possible, leave names out of it.