DEAR HARRIETTE: My dream company didn't hire me, and I am furious. Apparently, the other woman who was up for the job against me is liked more by other people. I don't think likability should affect the job selection. I was also called a "steamroller," which I found incredibly offensive. I know I am the right choice for this job, and I want to apply again. I feel like my years of experience led me right up to this job, and the company did not hire me! When should I contact the company again? I do not want to give up and regret it later in life. -- Not a Quitter, Shreveport, Louisiana
DEAR NOT A QUITTER: You need to cool down before doing anything. Naturally, it hurts to be rejected, especially when you fully believe that you are the more deserving candidate for a position. A wise next step is to evaluate the feedback you have received. Do note that likability can be a factor in hiring. A company wants skilled staff who work well together. Getting along with others with ease can be a huge bonus. On the contrary, being the person who is perceived as not listening, but instead steamrolling his or her way through activities is not an endearing quality.
Spend some time considering how you might repackage your presentation of yourself before you apply for another job. This job, by the way, is unavailable. When you look elsewhere, present a refreshed view of yourself as someone who is eager to be a team player.