DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My best friend thinks it’s weird how my boyfriend’s always more openly jealous of when I spend time with my women friends than he is when he sees or hears about some guy making a move on me.
I think this is just because he enjoys spending time with me and when I’m with “the girls” he and I are not together.
I also think he doesn’t care about when guys show an interest in me because he knows I love him and I am not interested in other guys.
Doesn’t that seem to make sense? --- MY FRIEND’S WRONG
DEAR MY FRIEND’S WRONG: While his not being threatened by other men taking an interest in you does possibly signal his confidence in the strength of your relationship and in your devotion to him, I’m not so sure your boyfriend’s reaction to the time you spend with female friends is as a good a thing as you assume it is.
It could be simply that, as you say, he likes spending all the time he can with you and that’s all there is to it.
However, what I’d be on the watch for and worried about is if he goes beyond being mildly disappointed to be missing time with you and begins to make it clear he doesn’t want you to be with anyone other than him.
Displaying a tendency to be overly possessive would be a big red flag to me that something’s off in the relationship, and your friend may be picking up on vibes you aren’t.