DEAR ABBY: My lunch date for today canceled on me. Generally, when a girl does this, I delete her number and move on. But in this instance, it wasn't a first or second date. We have been seeing each other for about a month and have built up some degree of intimacy. Moreover, I know she's not lying when she says she had a busy week. She apologized via text not once, but twice.
Nevertheless, I feel that as genuine as her apology was and as she has seemed in the time we have been together, this incident indicates either a lack of caring or integrity.
Would I be right to forget her? Or is this the one time a cancellation is justified? -- CLASSIC OVER-ANALYZER IN L.A.
DEAR OVER-ANALYZER: Your problem isn't that you are a classic over-analyzer; it's that you seem to be extremely insecure to the point of courting rejection when none is there. People cannot always control their schedules. And cancellations can happen more than once without it being an indication of lack of interest or caring. I see no reason why you should "forget" a woman whose company you enjoy, unless you are a masochist.