DEAR HARRIETTE: I was looking at social media and noticed that a friend of mine had a huge party and didn’t invite me. As I looked at the photos, I got really sad. I knew everybody I saw in the photos. It made me wonder why she wouldn’t have included me. It wasn’t like the party was for a particular cause or that it had a high price. It looked like it was just a really special get-together. What should I do? Part of me wants to write on her page to say, “Why didn’t you invite me?” I know that seems sad and desperate. But I feel sad. Would it be OK to say, “Looks like a lot of fun,” or, “Wow, what a great event!” At least then I would let her know that I see the party, and she will obviously know that I wasn’t invited. What should I do? -- Not Invited
DEAR NOT INVITED: I like your idea of graciously writing on your friend’s social media page. By acknowledging how great the event seemed, you will let her know that you saw it and that you thought it was great. You should avoid being catty. Do not say that you are sad you weren’t invited.
Even more, don’t be sad. You cannot be invited to everything. So you missed this one. If you want to be invited to more events, get out there and network more. The invites will follow.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)