Sense & Sensitivity by Harriette Cole

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DEAR HARRIETTE: I am an upcoming fashion designer trying to put my name out there. I’m struggling with trying to get people to notice me or even just give me a moment of their day. I’m trying to strengthen my communication skills so I can be heard by these people, but I am unsure how to go about this. I’ve tried prep tips such as talking to myself in the mirror. I think if I can master my communication skills, I will be able to kick-start my career and support myself financially.

Do you have any advice on ways I can get myself out there and enhance my communication skills at home so I am able to learn the ins and outs of the fashion industry? -- Helpless Designer, Atlanta

DEAR HELPLESS DESIGNER: Talking about your talents is important. One option to help you break out of your shell is Toastmasters, the group that helps with public speaking. Learn more at You must also think of ways to get people to pay attention to your designs. You can hire models to wear your clothing to public events and parties. Ask friends or family members who look the part to accompany you to events wearing your clothes. Let the clothes do the speaking.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)