DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been working at a salon for two years, and I work closely with all the employees. However, one particular man has my eye. He has been working there as long as I have, and we have grown comfortable with each other. Occasionally, we have small talk and laugh together, but nothing more than that. I want to get know him better, but I don't know if I am his type, which makes me afraid to pursue anything more than a platonic work relationship. Should I try to step out and make the first move? -- I'm Crushing, Dallas
DEAR I’M CRUSHING: Why do you think you are not this man’s type? Do you have any intel on who he has dated before, or is this you doubting yourself? If you think it’s the latter, push past your personal insecurities. It is perfectly fine for you to invite this man for coffee or to take a walk during a break at work. The goal should be to be able to talk to each other freely, away from the salon. You can tell him you would like to get to know him better. If he agrees, you can proceed. If he is polite but begs off, you will not have revealed too much.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)