DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend, who is a horrible driver, has been asking me about borrowing my car. I pay for everything that goes into this vehicle, and I know she is a reckless driver. I explained to her that I do not loan out my car, and she assumes this is because I am busy using the car myself. I feel more and more compelled to spell out to her that even if I did loan out my car, I would never give her the keys because of her multiple accidents and speeding tickets. Is it time to hit her with the truth, or is this not my battle? -- My Wheels, Dallas
DEAR MY WHEELS: You are under no obligation to explain to this friend why she cannot drive your car. You should know that it is best not to let anybody drive your car, as a rule. If anything were to happen with another person driving your car, you would be liable.
If you are looking out for your friend, that’s the time to express your concerns. You can sit down with her and ask her if you can confide in her by telling her something that makes you feel uncomfortable. With her permission, tell her that you are concerned about the way she drives. Point out specific incidences of her being a reckless driver and the effects her behavior has had on her car and on others. Suggest that she become more conscientious when she gets behind the wheel. You can also re-emphasize -- if the moment calls for it -- that you will not be letting her drive your car.