DEAR HARRIETTE: I ran into my old boyfriend when I was home for Thanksgiving. It was so nice to see him after all these years. I have been married and divorced since I saw him last. He never married. We seemed to hit it off in a sweet way.
I must admit that I never stopped caring about him, but our lives just took different turns. Now we live far away from each other, but it seemed like something could have sparked between us. He called me the other day, and we had a great conversation. Am I foolish for thinking we might still have a chance? I don’t want to be a stupid high school girl again. What should I do? -- Renewed Attraction, Washington, D.C.
DEAR RENEWED ATTRACTION: Don’t jump overboard too fast. Take it slow. But be honest at the same time. If you feel like you are interested in your old boyfriend, tell him how much you are enjoying reconnecting with him. Admit that you are a little surprised at how comfortable it feels. Add that you would like to see if there’s anything real between you beyond friendship. Tell him that you are open for simply rekindling a friendly bond or taking the risk to see if there is a relationship waiting for the two of you to explore. Ask him what he’s thinking. Make sure you are on the same page before you proceed.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)