DEAR HARRIETTE: I work in a pretty small office. We are in the advertising world, and we work in groups to put together the best campaigns possible. Throughout the year, I've noticed "Bobby" becoming more and more friendly toward me. I thought it was great that we had a friendship, but I made it clear I have a serious boyfriend whom I plan on moving in with.
Two weeks ago, Bobby told me he loves me. I was stunned. I made it clear that I do not reciprocate these feelings, nor would I ever leave my boyfriend for him. Work has been awkward, to say the least. Is there any way to bring work back to the fun and friendly environment it used to be? -- One-Sided Work Relationship, Boston
DEAR ONE-SIDED WORK RELATIONSHIP: Be gentle with Bobby, even though you were clear with him from the start. Remind him that you were open and honest with him from the beginning. Tell him that you appreciate that he cares about you, but your caring for him is and has always been limited to a working relationship. Ask him to work with you to mend the friendship today so that you can continue to work together harmoniously.
(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)