DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a female high school student, and I am stuck in a love triangle. There are two boys in my school who I really like. I met one boy in high school, and the other boy went to the same middle school as me. I have different reasons for liking each of them, but I do not know what to do. Please help. -- Helpless in Love, Rochester, New York
DEAR HELPLESS IN LOVE: Dating is one of the most difficult experiences that many people have, even as it can also be the most fun. In the beginning of meeting and getting to know someone you like, there is no rule that says you have to be exclusive with one person. You should feel comfortable going out with each boy and getting to know him, as you take it very slowly. Do not cross any lines of intimacy with either boy. Definitely do not lie about your actions.
At some point, you will have to decide who you like more and if you want to be either boy's girlfriend. When that day comes, you will need to tell the unchosen boy that you like him but that you have opted to be someone else's girlfriend. This is important because people often botch endings. When they think something is over, they often just walk away without regard for the other person's feelings. Don't do that. Be mindful of the fact that both boys like you, and you have liked them. Express your gratitude for the time you enjoyed together as you step away and choose the other. In this way, everyone can keep his dignity as you live your life.