DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been trying to reach a good friend of mine for several weeks, but he never answers his phone or returns my calls. I find this incredibly annoying. I know that he is busy, but so am I. So the other day, I was looking at Facebook and saw a picture of him at a party that I had also been invited to attend. I got so mad. I get that he went to the party, but if he is out having a great time, why can't he give me the respect to return my call? I thought of posting something nasty on Facebook, but I didn't. What can I do to make it known that I feel slighted? -- Licking My Wounds, Jersey City, New Jersey
DEAR LICKING MY WOUNDS: Stop obsessing over this friend. Sure, it was rude of him to blow you off. Now you are 100 percent certain that he can exhibit bad behavior. Rather than going back for another dose of it, let it go. Live your life. Engage with friends who want to spend time with you. Calling him again or arguing with him about how he isn't treating you right is only going to be more hurtful. Move on.
If he does happen to contact you again, do not rehash the past. Be in the present. Share the moment if you feel so inclined, but resist the temptation to get caught up in him.