DEAR HARRIETTE: Now that laws are being passed all over the country allowing people to buy marijuana, I am getting a lot of pressure from my husband to lighten up on letting him smoke in our home. He has been a smoker for years, and I hate it, so I never allowed him to smoke inside. Because it was illegal, that was always an issue. For me it was an issue for two reasons: One, because I don't want to be a part of anything illegal, and two, because I don't care what anybody says, smoking is not good for your health. How can I handle this now that it is legal to buy pot? -- No Smoking, Denver
DEAR NO SMOKING: There are many issues popping up now that marijuana is being legalized across the country. Yours is one that many shared households will be facing. You may want to address it the same way that households who have one cigarette smoker and one who is not handle the situation: You have to make house rules that both parties agree to honor. It's best to explain why you are setting those ground rules. In this case, clean air is a strong argument.
What you may want to do as a compromise is to designate a part of the house that has ventilation and is far away from any common areas where he can smoke in peace. If you can make that compromise, you will likely go a long way in creating a pleasant environment in your home.