DEAR HARRIETTE: My boyfriend and I have gotten pretty serious in recent months. We have even begun to talk about getting married. I love him, and I know he loves me. But we have one thing that is standing in our way: We do not practice the same religion, and both of us are pretty religious. I go to church every Sunday, plus I am involved in other activities in my church. He has come a few times and is quite respectful, but he is Jewish and is actively involved in his temple. We have not told our parents about our religious differences. They like the two of us as a couple -- theoretically -- but regardless of what they say, we aren't sure how to handle a marriage if we have kids. Should we give up before we get too involved? -- The Great Divide, Chicago
DEAR THE GREAT DIVIDE: Couples have been known to work together even when they do not share the same religion. It definitely takes some effort and clarification on both of your parts as to what shared values you have, what you will teach any children you may have and how you will navigate both religions. You need to come to terms before talking to your parents. Seek the counsel of spiritual advisers on both sides for support.