DEAR HARRIETTE: I hate to feel this way, but I am jealous of my husband. He and I started a weight loss campaign in the summer. When we got on the scale, we weighed almost the same. I have been working my butt off, exercising and eating carefully, as has he. The difference is I have barely lost 10 pounds, and he has lost 15 and counting. It's not fair! I feel like there's nothing I can do to catch up with him. He isn't gloating or anything, but I look at him and I feel bad about myself. How can I change my attitude? -- Attitude Check, Milwaukee
DEAR ATTITUDE CHECK: Your focus and attention need to be squarely on you, not on your husband or anybody else. Look at yourself in the mirror. Thank yourself for getting this far. Commit to figuring out what you need to do to reach your goal. Watch what you eat. I'm sure you know that you have to take in fewer calories than you burn or your exercise will not manifest the results you want. You may want to get a physical and go to a nutritionist to get advice on intake. You may also want to work with a trainer to up your cardio workout. This can help you to burn more calories. Congratulate your husband and yourself. And keep your eyes on the prize!
(Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)