DEAR HARRIETTE: I married a man after only knowing him for one month! We met in May 2012, and we got married in June 2012. It was a lot of fun at first, but lately I don't like being married to him at all. After only two years, I am ready to call it quits, but deep down I want to save my marriage. Do you have any tips on how I can do that? -- Ran to the Altar, Chicago
DEAR RAN TO THE ALTAR: You two need to slow down, look each other in the face and talk openly about your relationship. Clearly, something attracted you to each other enough for you to take the leap to formalize your commitment. Revisit those early days. What was it that you liked about him? Ask him what he liked about you.
Next, look at how you have lived your life. Did you make a plan for what you wanted to do together? Did you have an idea of how you wanted your marriage to unfold? Many people do not, and then somewhere along the way, they figure out that they need to set an intention together for the future. Before you throw in the proverbial towel, talk to your husband about what you think is not working, and ask him if he is willing to work with you to strengthen your bond. Give yourselves a chance to consciously build your marriage.