Say This, Not That by Ilana Kukoff and Jessica Huddy

Say This, Not That in Advice January 22, 2020

Dealing with Disrespect

Dear Ilana and Jess: My eight-year-old daughter, Sheila, has developed a serious attitude. When I ask her to do something, she ignores me or tells me she’ll do it later. How do I get her to respect... continue

Say This, Not That in Advice January 15, 2020

Birthday Envy

Dear Ilana and Jess: My two daughters are 3.5 years apart. One is eight, the other is eleven. Every year, birthdays are a problem. When it’s one daughter’s turn, the other becomes snippy and annoye... continue

Say This, Not That in Advice January 08, 2020

Dip in My Teen’s Self-Esteem

Dear Ilana and Jess: My teenage daughter has such a brutal time with self-esteem, specifically in terms of her looks. I don’t know how to help her. Advice? — Rudy Dear Rudy: As you can imagine, tee... continue

Say This, Not That in Advice January 01, 2020

New Year, Same Family

Dear Ilana and Jess: The new year always starts with big ideas and resolutions, but my family can never seem to follow through. One of our goals as a family is to reduce conflict in the new year, b... continue