DEAR MISS MANNERS: Please help! We sent out 220 wedding invitations; got back 175 yeses; then the wedding venue in San Francisco shut down in March with eight days’ notice! We desperately tried to fin... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I would like to know if it is appropriate to record how much money each of your guests give you at your wedding, like a financial ledger.... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am baffled as to why, when dining out with a friend or a group, it is often conveyed as bad manners to ask for separate checks. If I were to draw an analogy: When I go shopping wi... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I obtained a credit card through a major airline. One of the perks of receiving the card is that if I spend a certain amount with the card within the first few months, I have the op... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Donation containers for the needy by our cash registers have been relabeled for tips. I felt that was tacky, but since it didn't require any action on my part, I sought to ignore it... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it customary to put return postage on envelopes for RSVPs in invitations, or does one expect that the guest should pay for his or her own postage for the return? It seems that if... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am not a religious person, but I treat other people's beliefs respectfully. When others I am with are praying, for example, I lower my head and hold my hands together.... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: As the maid of honor in a friend's wedding, I found myself having the sole financial responsibility for throwing the bridal shower. I was the only member of the bridal party with a ... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was invited to a birthday party for a 2-year-old. On the invitation was where the parents had the child registered for gifts.... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: As I'm sure you know, traditionally the bride's family comes up with the cost of the wedding. But now that marriage has become so diversified, who holds that responsibility? Grooms ... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: In a department that gives performance-based commissions, one of my co-workers began prodding me with questions about my commission: "What were your numbers last month?" "Have you g... more
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have learned about another way for couples to get cash instead of gifts for their wedding without coming out and crassly asking for it.... more