DEAR MISS MANNERS: The term “Mrs.” makes me puke. Is it OK if I address all women as “Ms.,” even if I know they prefer “Mrs.”?
The way I see it, “Mrs.” is a sexist term that reinforces sexist norms every time it’s uttered, but the word “Ms.” is harmless.
I want to make the world a less sexist place. My mom says I’m being rude. Who’s right?
GENTLE READER: Your mother.
And didn’t she teach you that deliberately ignoring other people’s wishes is not a way to make the world a better place? And to state your beliefs in less offensive terms?
If people paid more attention to their mothers’ pronouncements, Miss Manners’ job would be a lot easier.
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