DEAR MISS MANNERS: My stepson is getting married during the pandemic, and is now only able to invite a tiny number of guests. He plans to have his big wedding at a later date. The guests now only include the bridegroom, their son, the couple standing up for them and their natural parents.
I feel that that is disrespectful and inappropriate. Am I wrong in feeling this way?
GENTLE READER: Whom would you ask them to eliminate to allow you one of those slots?
Oh, whoops -- Miss Manners had failed to notice that although you listed the bridegroom, who is not exactly a “guest,” you did not list the bride.
But the bride is only the first whose claim to this highly restricted gathering seems stronger than yours. Later, when larger festivities are held -- it will not actually be a “wedding,” as the couple will already be married -- you should be included. Now is the time to withdraw gracefully, with all your good wishes.