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Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Announcing a Ceremony That Didn’t Happen

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I wish to inform my doctor I will no longer require his services. I’ve found a lot of information and protocols for doctors wishing to “terminate” a patient, but nothing for the patient wanting to properly communicate their wish to change doctors.

Were it merely a matter of thanking the doctor for their excellent care, I would not be at a loss for words. This is not that.

GENTLE READER: If you sued him for malpractice, he already knows you are leaving.

Short of that, if you feel you cannot even mention the care while dropping the modifier “excellent,” Miss Manners suggests, “I would appreciate it if you would forward my records to Dr. Nathaniel Tenderhands, as I will be seeing him in the future.”