Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Dad of Five Daughters Sick of Sexist Questions

DEAR MISS MANNERS: If it is proper to use initialed note cards, would one use the first, or last, initial of the person writing the note? If a woman is writing a thank-you note from her husband and herself, which initial would she use?

GENTLE READER: Hers -- of both first and last name -- unless she is pretending to be her husband, having lost the battle to get him to write his own letters of thanks.

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