Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Student Wants to Belatedly Thank Anonymous Benefactors

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My twin and I like to dress alike on Sundays, on holidays, when we go out of town, when we go on cruises, and at banquets. We are 65 years of age and very stylish. We were unable to do this when we were raising our children.

Apparently this annoys some people. We have had folks make rude remarks such as, “Are you still dressing alike?” I usually say that I did not get the memo.

Why do people care? Is there a rule out there that says we cannot dress alike at a certain age? We enjoy doing it and have similar tastes.

GENTLE READER: Why anyone should care is a good question, but so is why you should care what rude people say.

Miss Manners suggests a rehearsed response. Look intently at each other’s outfits as if seeing them for the first time, and say in unison, “I like your dress.” Even the silliest busybody should understand that you dress to please yourselves.

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