DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I have been separated -- living in the same house but in separate bedrooms -- for 18 years. My friend invited us to her home overnight. Do I ask her if she has two beds in one guest room?
GENTLE READER: This scenario plants an indelible image where none was warranted. If you don't mind your hosts' being kept awake wondering how this works, Miss Manners supposes you could say, "We would both love to join you, but we are currently separated. We get along perfectly well, but I wanted to let you know ..." But you could also just ask if it is possible to have two beds.