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Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Parry Servers' Chitchat With a Soft Lob

DEAR MISS MANNERS: When someone invites you to their private club, who should pay the bill?

GENTLE READER: Anyone who invites you anywhere should pay. That's what it means to invite someone, as opposed to agreeing to meet or go out together.

But Miss Manners notes that this is especially true at a private club, which is considered equivalent to the member's home (and where there should be a policy allowing only members to pay).

(Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website, www.missmanners.com; to her email, dearmissmanners@gmail.com; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

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