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Miss Manners by Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

Make It Clear to Employer That His Personal Life Holds No Interest

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My employer texted a photo of a woman he's seeing while he was out on a date with her. This isn't the first time it's happened.

I know the woman through him and like her, but it's not like we're family. I don't know if he asked her permission. I feel like there's something manipulative about this behavior, and I don't want to be involved. Any thoughts on how to gracefully handle this uncomfortable situation?

GENTLE READER: There are so many things that are improper about this situation that Miss Manners hardly knows where to start. That your employer may not have asked the subject's permission actually seems the least of his offenses, although still great.

Whatever his ulterior motive with you might be, it is certainly not professional. If you wish to keep the relationship so, try saying, "Oh, you must have accidentally sent your dinner date's picture to me. Did you mean to text me a work question instead?"

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