DEAR MISS MANNERS: I will be unable to attend an annual dinner party for family members this year because of a particularly hurtful event between myself and another attendee. I want to say that I will not attend without going into detail. What is your advice?
GENTLE READER: To say that you will not attend without going into detail.
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