DEAR MISS MANNERS: My grandmother has dementia and is slowly dying. Hospice is there with her off and on these days. I am planning a visit to see her.
I would like my husband to be with me when I visit her, but they have never met, nor does she know that he and I are married. We married after she developed dementia, and I never introduced the two, so as to not overwhelm her any.
If I were to introduce them this weekend, there is no guarantee that she will remember him in any future visits. There is also the chance that she won't even remember who I am. Your thoughts?
GENTLE READER: If it is important to you and your husband, then Miss Manners would encourage the introduction. Since your grandmother may or may not remember, there is no harm done to her, and possibly even momentary enjoyment. And you will likely feel better that you made the attempt to include your new husband in the family.
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