DEAR MISS MANNERS: This will probably come off as conceited and self-absorbed, but I need to know! We are trying to budget our wedding, but how can we do that if a percentage is hanging in limbo?
I do not expect my parents to help us, as they have already given us more than we ever thought, and we haven't heard a peep from them. I am on great terms with his mother, so I would have no problem straight up asking for a yes or no, but God bless my fiance, he doesn't even want to ask.
So, am I rude to even ask, or do I have the right to know so I can keep planning with or without the money?
GENTLE READER: Please do not begin your marriage by pushing your fiance to extract money from his parents, when you know that he does not want to do so. (And God bless him for that, indeed.)