DEAR MISS MANNERS: My son has asked that we not post pictures of our treasured grandbaby on Facebook, a request that we have respected. Neither my son nor my daughter-in-law has a Facebook account.
My problem is, I see that my son's mother-in-law and sister-in-law post pictures of the baby all the time. They even call her by name.
So, do I tell them about the postings, or mind my own business, even knowing how this will upset them when they find out? And they will find out.
GENTLE READER: If they will find out anyway, why invite them to kill the messenger?
If your son and daughter-in-law ask if you have seen these postings, you may say that you didn't want to get involved, which, whether true or not, is hardly blameworthy. You have been handed a rare case in which the problem will solve itself without your intervention. Miss Manners encourages you to take it.