DEAR HARRIETTE: I have had a contentious relationship with one of my clients, and now it is ending. He is moving to another job. I am happy for him -- and for me. No matter how hard I tried, we never got along when it came to getting the work done. Our team is hosting a goodbye party for this guy, and I am expected to be there. I feel like a bit of a hypocrite showing up given that I don’t care for the guy. Should I pass on the festivities? -- Not Feeling It
DEAR NOT FEELING IT: I always say that endings are more important than beginnings. Sure, you and this guy haven’t had the smoothest of relationships. He still deserves to be acknowledged for the time you spent together. You should attend with a genuine smile on your face. Be happy for him that he has found an opportunity that makes him happy, and be strategic for yourself. The rest of the team needs to see that you are a team player and that you have a positive attitude. You will need to be welcoming to whoever comes next, and you should resist the temptation to badmouth the departing client. Stay neutral and upbeat.