DEAR MISS MANNERS: I've just completed my second vaccination shot for COVID-19 and, though I feel lucky and relieved, I've dealt with much resentment from others who have not been able to receive their shots yet.
I've been asked such questions as, "Who did you have to bribe?” or "What makes you so special?” and the like, all of which have been insulting and hurtful. It makes me sound as if I barged my way to the head of the line or pulled strings, which I didn't. How should I deal with snarky remarks over something that I should be happy about?
GENTLE READER: Pretending not to understand is one of Miss Manners' favorite techniques for countering rudeness. "Surely,” her quizzical look is meant to convey, "you cannot have meant to accuse me of fraud. I must have misheard you.”
It is particularly effective in deflating those who think they are being charming, funny or genuine, as it demonstrates that you were neither charmed nor amused nor impressed by their inconsiderate honesty. And it avoids the bother of having to take offense at casually offensive behavior.