DEAR ABBY: My husband inherited a nasty habit from his mother. He calls people "crazy" to discredit them so he can win arguments and stifle discussion. I have told him it's lazy to pass judgment on someone that way. It also shows the world how ignorant he is, because he thinks he'll win every argument by playing the crazy card -- a personal attack.
I think it's immature and immoral to take advantage of others' bias against mental health issues. He has done it to me in front of people. I have said, "You wish!" right back at him. It has reached the point that I think he's character deficient.
His misogyny is exhausting to fight. His mother is even worse. She throws in her armchair diagnosis, which is always "schizophrenia." My husband's argument is an emotional one and too pervasive to enjoy time with him. Any idea how I can fight these below-the-belt punches? -- DEFINITELY NOT "CRAZY"
DEAR DEFINITELY NOT: That shouldn't be too hard. When your husband acts this way, don't engage with him. Ignore his comments, leave the room or the house. Spend less time with him and no time with his mother. And while you're doing that, ask yourself why you tolerate the disrespect you're receiving from both of them.