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by Abigail Van Buren

Moving to a New Community Brings Out Social Insecurities

DEAR ABBY: I have been divorced for nine years. I take responsibility for the end of my marriage. I fell in love with another man. Although I never intended to divorce, my husband discovered my affair and divorced me.

I am now in a new relationship with a man I adore. Should I tell him the reason my marriage ended? My ex died in 2017, so the only other person who knows why we divorced is no longer alive. -- WHOLE TRUTH? IN ARIZONA

DEAR TRUTH: Excuse me. Someone else does know -- the person with whom you had the affair. If you are asked why you and your ex divorced, answer the question honestly. If you aren't asked, keep your past where it belongs -- in the past.