DEAR ABBY: Whenever the opportunity presents itself, I donate one of my framed oil paintings for fundraising. On one of these occasions, my friend and her husband purchased raffle tickets and won my painting. They happily took it home.
Months later, there was to be a silent auction at an event. My friend asked if I would mind if she donated that painting to it. It disturbed me that she obviously didn't care to keep my painting, but I told her that she owned it and it was hers to do with as she chose.
To this day this incident stirs up resentment because she obviously didn't wish to keep my artwork. Am I childish to harbor this disappointment? -- DEJECTED ARTIST IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR ARTIST: If your friend hadn't liked your painting, she wouldn't have bid for it. For whatever reason -- wrong size, colors didn't fit in with her color scheme -- it didn't work for her. Resentment is a disease that eats away at relationships. Let it go.