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by Abigail Van Buren

Tardy Friend Is Peeved That Lunch Was Over When She Arrived

DEAR ABBY: A friend invited me to have lunch with her. I let her know it would be a little while before I arrived because I was in the middle of doing something. When I arrived, she had already finished her lunch! I thought it was incredibly rude, and I declined to eat. Am I correct? -- HUNGRY NO MORE IN WASHINGTON

DEAR HUNGRY: When you told your friend it might be a little while before you arrived, did you indicate how long you would be? Fifteen minutes? A half-hour? An hour? Longer? Friends don't let friends starve, and you shouldn't have sulked because she couldn't wait. When someone is famished, even five minutes can seem interminable.

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