DEAR ABBY: I did something really selfish and stupid. I got involved with a married man, and it lasted several years. When his wife found out, everything blew up. She wrote me a letter saying she needed closure and to let me know how I destroyed her self-esteem. She questioned my morals and berated me for my actions.
I deeply regret what I did, and I am filled with remorse. I want her to know how sorry I am, and I have written a response to her letter. I did it partly because I needed to put my feelings down in words and to express my sadness for all the pain I caused.
I am sure she never wants to hear from me again, but I need to apologize and let her know I'll regret what I did for the rest of my life. Should I send it? -- FULL OF SADNESS AND REMORSE
DEAR FULL: I think you have done enough already. Because you are sure the woman never wants to hear from you again, don't send it. While she deserves an apology for your part in her husband's infidelity, I seriously doubt it will lessen her pain, even as it eases your guilt.