DEAR ABBY: I'm the product of my father's infidelity. My mother, who was 19, abandoned me. My grandmother took me in and raised me. I grew up very poor, but I made it. I got my college education plus a master's degree.
Actually, I think my biological mother did me a favor by leaving me because she's not a good person. She is now very ill, with only months to live. One of my half-sisters contacted me last night to let me know.
I don't hate her. I just do not feel anything for her. I'm 50 now, and she has never been a part of my life. I'm not sure if I should go and see her before she dies. -- UNSURE OF IT
DEAR UNSURE OF IT: Your half-sister may have contacted you to give you closure before your mother dies, or because your mother asked her to. If you have any questions you would like answered, you should go. Having never met your mother, I can't judge whether she's "not a good person" or simply someone who made terrible decisions and got on the wrong path when she was still a teenager. And I'm not sure you should judge her either, until after you have had a conversation with her.