DEAR ABBY: We are part of a group of four couples who arrange to get together for dinners. One of the couples continually invites another couple at the last minute without checking with the rest of us.
We are hosting a dinner and planned it around the eight of us, only to find out this couple has invited another couple -- again! I explained to the woman that I don't think it's nice to invite additional people without first checking with the hosts, certainly not at 10 o'clock the night before, but they don't want to leave the fifth couple out. This is the third time this has happened, and others have spoken to her about it to no avail. Please help! -- UNINVITED IN DELAWARE
DEAR UNINVITED: What the woman is doing is beyond inconsiderate. The "way to handle it" would be to discuss it with the other group members and agree to disinvite this couple from your group. Three strikes and they're out.