DEAR ABBY: I have two young nieces who are close in age. One of them just announced her plans for an elaborate wedding. The other sent a Christmas card together with her new boyfriend because they are now living together.
Does the niece who is forgoing marriage also forfeit her opportunity to acquire wedding gifts? Or does her card constitute a "coupling announcement" for which a gift card would be appropriate? -- PERPLEXED IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR PERPLEXED: The niece who is cohabiting sent you a Christmas card, not a "coupling announcement." Cross your fingers that all goes well for her and the boyfriend, and perhaps -- in a year or two -- you will receive an invitation for their wedding. (If you decide to attend, a gift would be in order at that time.)