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by Abigail Van Buren

Woman Serving Time Fears Boyfriend's Love Will Fade

DEAR ABBY: I'm a 25-year-old female currently serving a nine-year prison sentence. It is the first time I have ever been in trouble (wrong place, wrong time). My boyfriend is 24. We've been together 2 1/2 years and have had our ups and downs (mostly ups). I am truly in love with him, and he tells me he will always be there for me.

I have been in prison for five months so far, and he hasn't missed a visit or a phone call. He also makes sure I have money on my books.

I'm worried that somewhere down the road, since we're so young, he will meet someone and move on. In a way, I would kind of understand -- I don't want his life to stop because mine has. But I also don't want to lose him. How do I keep our relationship strong, or should I let him go? -- LOCKED UP IN DELAWARE

DEAR LOCKED UP: Nine years is a long time, and sometimes life happens in the interim. I can't predict what will happen, and you shouldn't either. Take things a day at a time. Keep the lines of communication open and honest.

Because things are going well, do not "let him go." If the romance ends, so be it. But if it does, appreciate that he seems to be a staunch friend and ally.

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