DEAR ABBY: I lost my hubby after 50 happy years, and yet I don't cry. What's wrong with me? -- GRIEVING IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR GRIEVING: There is nothing wrong with you. If your husband was ill for a period of time before his death, you may have had more than enough time to grieve his loss as he was slipping away. If his passing was sudden, you may be in shock, which is why your tears won't come. Not everyone grieves in the same way, drowning in an ocean of tears, so please do not judge yourself harshly -- or at all.