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by Abigail Van Buren

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DEAR ABBY: What is the rule of etiquette if someone is visiting your town on vacation and you are at work? Are you obligated to take time off from your job? Or should the vacationers work around your schedule to visit with you? My feeling is if they are on vacation, they should be flexible and not expect you to call in sick to work or use your vacation time. -- BUSY IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR BUSY: No rule of etiquette dictates that you must take time away from your job to entertain out-of-town guests -- particularly if you haven't invited them. Considerate visitors would (and should) accommodate your schedule rather than expect you to hold their hands.