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by Abigail Van Buren

Graduate Stumbles Over What Name to Put on Diploma

DEAR ABBY: I'm 54 and finally finishing my bachelor's degree. It has been a very long journey, and I'm excited to finally attain it. My question is: Which last name should I put on my degree? I still use my ex-husband's last name because I have a son with him. After I remarried I still didn't change it.

My educational goal was a personal one, and I'm proud of myself for finishing it. I wanted to use my maiden name on my degree because this degree is also for my parents, although both have since passed. So, which last name should I use for my degree? -- UNSURE IN TEXAS

DEAR UNSURE: If you plan to use your degree for anything more than a wall decoration, and plan on continuing to use your ex-husband's name in your career, put that name on the diploma. If not, using your maiden name as a sentimental tribute to your parents is a lovely idea.

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