DEAR ABBY: I received an invitation to a "belly and bells shower." The bride is expecting (belly) and her wedding shower is included (bells). Having never received an invitation that honors both events, I'm not certain how to respond gift-wise. Do I buy two gifts? She's registered at two sites, one for baby and one for bridal. -- CONFUSED IN MICHIGAN
DEAR CONFUSED: Yes, two gifts are what's being requested. What those gifts should be is up to you -- although you will get some idea of what the young couple will need by visiting the two websites. After the shower is over, the rule of etiquette is that you should receive a wedding invitation. If you choose to attend, another gift will be in order, so don't put away your checkbook.