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by Abigail Van Buren

Daughter Jumps Into New Relationship Before Divorce Is Final

DEAR ABBY: Our 28-year-old daughter, the mother of two, is in the middle of a divorce from her husband of three years. The divorce is not yet final, but she's already involved with a new man. He is eight years older, jobless, has terminal cancer, lives with his father and is raising his 6-year-old daughter. This relationship seems wrong in so many ways, we cannot imagine how this could ever come to any good.

My daughter is intelligent. She has a promising management position with a big company. But she's not the kind to listen to any advice, and has never made good decisions when it comes to men. Any advice from you would be greatly appreciated. -- UNSURE IN TEXAS

DEAR UNSURE: Because you love your daughter, be patient and supportive. There is no way to "save" a daughter who consistently makes poor choices about men and won't listen to advice. Some people have to learn life lessons the hard way. The sooner you accept it, the better your own life will be.

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