DEAR ABBY: I just found out my married son had an affair, and the woman may be pregnant. If she is, do we acknowledge the baby as our grandchild? And what's the right thing to do if my son and his wife stay together? -- COMPLICATED IN THE NORTH
DEAR COMPLICATED: If a paternity test proves the baby is your son's, he will have a legal obligation to support the child until he or she is no longer a minor. If your son and his wife remain together -- and many couples do -- his wife may prefer he have as little to do with the mother and child as possible. However, if you would like to be part of your grandchild's life, it is your privilege to do so.