DEAR ABBY: When I was a teenager, I met a guy I'll call "Jordan" at a college summer program and fell head over heels in love with him. But the program lasted only five weeks, and we lived hours apart. We decided from the beginning that we wouldn't attempt a long-distance relationship and would simply enjoy the time we had together.
That fall, my senior year, I visited Boston to look at colleges. I had made plans to see him, but he blew me off. Because I never got closure, I was not able to let him go emotionally.
During my sophomore year of college, Jordan contacted me and asked if we could meet. I refused because I had just met someone else, and didn't want to jeopardize my new relationship. I was with that guy for five years and almost married him. (Our breakup had nothing to do with Jordan.)
It is nearly a decade later, and I have met someone I could fall in love with. But it seems that I'm still not completely over Jordan. Should I reach out to him and try to get the closure I need? -- LEFT HANGING ON THE EAST COAST
DEAR LEFT HANGING: Yes. After all these years, it's time. And when you do, tell him the greatest gift he could give you would be the gift of closure. If he's a gentleman, he will agree. And when you get it, move forward and don't look back.