DEAR ABBY: What does it say about a man when he won't accept a friend request on Facebook from his wife of 20 years?
He has been unfaithful in the past. He has several hundred friends on there from all over the country as he travels a lot. But he not only refuses to accept my request, he also refuses to say why.
I'm new to Facebook; he has been on for years. I don't have many friends because I've been pretty isolated, and now I want to reconnect. But if my own husband won't accept my friend request, should I even bother trying to friend anyone else? Oh, and if I friend any of my old male friends, he'll accuse me of cheating, even though that's his thing, not mine. -- NO FOLLOWERS IN THE WEST
DEAR NO FOLLOWERS: Following your husband on Facebook is the least of your problems. You already know he is secretive and has cheated on you. If you feel isolated, you have the right to reach out to anyone your heart desires, whether they're male or female.
Oh, and one more thing. If he accuses you of cheating, it may be because he has or is. Do you really need me to tell you that if you're unhappy you need to talk with a licensed therapist about it? Please consider it.